Why Acceptance is Important

We are often told that it is important to accept our situation but we are rarely, if ever, told why.

The reasons are actually quite simple.

First, with acceptance we free up a lot of energy as we are no longer fighting ourselves. This, in itself, can often massively improve our lives.

Another thing is that acceptance allows us to look at our problems somewhat objectively. Oftentimes, through acceptance, we can see possibilities that may have eluded us when we were resisting the problem.

By the way, when I say. "resisting the problem" I am NOT saying "focusing on the problem". I am saying that we are "fighting the problem" with disempowering emotions such as anger, fear or self pity. In other words, we are fighting ourselves. A guaranteed losing strategy.

What I am trying to sya is that although we need to clearly DEFINE the problem we need to be careful not FEEL BAD about it.

You see, the problem is not the problem. The problem is RESISTANCE to the problem. In other words, what we resist persists. Conversally, what we accept we gain the ability to utilize.

How does acceptance allow us to utilize the problem?

Simple. By acceptance we not only free up energy and see the problem more objectively but we see the opportunity that is inevitably contained in the problem. We open ourselves up to learn the LESSONS in the problem.

Acceptance leads to focusing on solution. Focusing on solutions leads finding ways of dealing with or turning around the problem (i.e., it gives you ideas for taking right action). As you translate these ideas of right action into action you empower yourself and thus you grow from your problem. Or, to be more accurate, you grow from ACCEPTANCE of your problem.