Strength of Reality, Validation & Success

Internal vs. External Validation; Control

As long as you are dependant on others to tell you who you are you will lack some degree of control over your life. You must be internally validated to really be in control of your life.

In fact, if you want to control your life you must trust yourself. In the long run you are better off to make a mistake, figure out what you need to change then to simply blindly follow someone over yourself (ie. trust them more than yourself). The only exception is, of course, is if the mistake has disastouros consequences such as death or serious injury.

The Power of Strength of Reality

The stronger your sense of reality/ identity the less likely it is to be disrupted by someone else trying to impose their sense of reality on you. You see, if someone is more certain about who you are than you are they will be able to exert a psychological presure that will overwhelm your natural psycholical defenses. They will be able to impose their reality on you.

Stated another way, if they are more certain of who you are than you are of who you are they will be able to control your by dictating your sense of reality.

In other words, they will be able to mess with your mind (your sense of identity, your sense of reality). They will be able to control you by defining you.

This is why you have to be clear about who you are and who you associate with. If you don't have a strong sense of who you are you are asking others to mess with your sense of reality and to redefine it for their purposes.

This is also why beta males stay beta males. You see, it is in the best interest of the alpha males around the beta male to keep him weak (weak sense of reality/ identity). That way they can always override the beta males sense of reality when it suits them. This is why often alpha males will mess with the mind of beta males even when it offers no obvious advantage to them. They don't want the beta males sense of reality to get too strong or else the alphas will lose control of the beta males.

An example of this is when one guy out alphas another guy in competition for a woamn at a night club. The more alpha male redefines the reality for the less alpha male and the less alpha/ beta male ends up without the girl.

Strength of Reality and Success

One thing you will notice about those who are most successful is that they rarely, if ever, get their reailty disrupted. They stay calm and in control virtually no matter what. They are so strongly entrenched in their sense of reality that they are naturally unreactive. The stronger your sense of reality the less reactive you will naturally be and the less likely others or external circumstances are to disrupt your sense of reality.

This means that they stay focused on what they really want and make steady progress. They don't have their energy drained by having their sense of reality continously disrupted. They use their energy to make progress not to continously question themselves or to readjust their sense of reality. They stay on course virtually no matter what. And this consistency leads to a lot of success.