We are the trouble makers!!

It suddenly occured to me that we create our own problems so we can learn from them and grow. It all makes so much sense.

The Full Circle of Happiness

You can have a child like happiness but it won't last because sooner or later you have to grow up. You have to start learning the lessons of life. We are here to learn and 2 of our greatest teachers are pain and problems. None can avoid these instructors. To get to the REAL happiness, that of a "street wise saint" - i.e. you KNOW the score and you are happy because you realize that this is the way things have to be - you need to go through a lot of pain and problems. But oh are the rewards so sweet.

What is the problem?

Generally speaking the problem is that you haven’t sufficently defined the problem. You are dealing with an effect and not the cause. The problem is usually that you are not dealing with the REAL problem. You are at the effect or at a secondary or tertiary problem. You are not dealing with that which will give you the results you want. You need to go deeper down the rabbit hole.

Problems

Once you understand the REAL problem the solution is often quite simple, in fact it is usually obvious. The initial problem is NEVER the real problem. As noted sales trainer David Sandler says “The problem the prospect gives you is never the real problem. If they knew it they would have solved it themselves.” If they knew the real problem they probably wouldn’t need you. This is why asking questions is so important.

Fears

I had a funny realization: not only do most of my fears not come true but even when they do it usually is no big deal. This morning I was listing a lot of my fears. The funny thing is that after listing them all I could think is: "So what?". I realized: 1) they wouldn't all happen at once, 2) that even if all of them happened sooner or later I could deal with them. I had dealt with worst.

Fallacious Arguments

You attack at the BASE arguments not the secondary arguments. You deal with the ROOTS and then the FRUITS won't happen.

Why Self Esteem Is So Important

The reason that self esteem is so important is because without it you will repeatedly trip yourself up - without even knowing it!! THAT is why it can be so insidous. Entitlement/ reverence for yuourself is the ultimate filter. It filters what you perceive and HOW you perceive it if you do. Because of this it filters what you think about, don't think about and how yi=ou think about it. Similiarly, it does the same thing for your actions, along with their consistency. Thus it ultimately shows up as your results.